Eliminating the Shadows of the Ex that—Breaking away from the shadow of the lover who has been in love with another, is certainly the hardest thing for some people to do. Especially if the figure is very memorable in your life and has given many good memories.
Even though you still love him very much, but fate says otherwise, of course you can’t do anything. Obviously this is very painful.
But even more painful is your struggle to forget the shadows in your life. Forgetting someone who was once a part of our lives is not easy. Moreover, the stronger we try to forget him, the more our memories of the memories with him will get stronger. Then, how to forget him who was once a part of your life?
You need to be more patient again try to give time in your heart. Let the beautiful memories evaporate slowly. It’s best not to rush to bury all your memories and all memories of him. When you can give time and be patient, sincerity will fill your heart.
Find the Root of the Problem Why is it so hard for you to get it out of your mind? What is the reason that makes you still haunted by his figure? Why do you still remember him? Try to find the answer and the root of the problem. If, for example, the reason you can’t forget him is because of past memories, you can start by throwing away his gifts and cutting off contact on social media.
Try to find reasons why you and he weren’t meant to be together. Just make up, say, 101 reasons you and he don’t match each other. This will make your heart feel more spacious and calm. At the same time, it is a way to fortify you to remember his figure again. Focus on Yourself
Now is the time to shift your focus. Instead of wasting time thinking about him leaving with someone else, you better pay more attention to yourself. Do something that can keep you busy. Take advantage of your time to do things that can enrich yourself.
“If you want to forget something or someone, never hate it, or never hate him/her. Everything and everyone that you hate is engraved upon your heart; if you want to let go of something, if you want to forget, you cannot hate.”
Stop Hating It Have you ever thought that one of the reasons you have a hard time forgetting it is because there is hatred in your chest? Well, to forget it, make peace with the hate. Stop hating or being disappointed in the past. After all, it has become part of your life’s journey. Now, can you really make peace and forget about the person who used to be a part of your life? Trust me, if there will be someone much better for you in the future.(*)
